Musings of a Singaporean Transgender

The lack of a safe space to dress up is a common problem faced by crossdressers around the world. Usually the inclinations to crossdress start somewhere in puberty, meaning that in order to wear a dress without your parents discovering, you'll need your own bedroom and parents who...

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Fetish: a form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.Based on the definition provided by Google, I don't think it's too far off the mark to say that yes, crossdressing is a...

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If you asked me before 2019 whether I would dare to step out in public it would have been a flat out no. And if you retorted to say that not only would I dress up in public multiple times, I would also participate in an interview as...

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Going out in public for the first time is usually one of the biggest hurdles that crossdressers face (the hurdle is really a mental one). When one is still in the closet, dressing out in public is a Herculean task and feels like a mountain that they want...

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Having chatted with multiple crossdressers in the past few years, I observe many parallels in their stories. Despite different backgrounds, ethnicities, nationality and upbringing, the majority of male crossdressers seem to have a similar starting point and go through the same phases. Age does not dictate which phase...

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To be honest I was considering whether to write about this or not. I have mentioned before that crossdressing is just like any other hobby, where people with a shared interest chat, meet up and participate in the activity that brings them so much joy. However, there is one major...

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I decided there was a need to write about this topic after a friend shared her unpleasant experience with another sister within the local crossdressing community. It wasn't the first time I've heard about what I would consider "unacceptable behaviour" by another sister. Crossdressing is a very niche interest...

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Short answer: No, wanting to crossdress doesn't mean that you are gay. But you could be (and that is independent of your love for crossdressing).I presume the definition of "gay" here is being sexually attracted to other men.  There is quite a fair bit of fear among crossdressers...

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No, no, no, no! You should never purge! Purging is usually a dramatic move, done in an attempt to stop/quit/swear off crossdressing. But as painful as the purging process is, it is ineffective in staving off the desire to crossdress. Personally, I think the desire to crossdress will never...

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(Image from the Genderbread Person)They are all different! And it is important to know the difference, because people don't neatly fall into a binary. Even for biological sex, which for a majority of situations are a binary, there are occasions where people are born intersex and end up...

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Gender Dysphoria definitions:Merriam webster: "a distressed state arising from conflict between a person's gender identity and the sex the person has or was identified as having at birth"Cambridge: "the unhappy feeling that some people have when they feel that their identity (= who they are) as a man or a woman does not fit with the sex that they had,...

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(Yes, this is Me! So pretty right? 😝)Yes, I have done it! 😁 After more than 2 decades, I finally fulfilled my dream of being a bride! 👰‍♀️Previously I wrote a post about my dream of wearing a bridal gown and going for a proper photoshoot. Covid did scuttle...

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